OVERVIEW

Family therapy has a rich array of approaches; to highlight them we will present a clinical vignette and illustrate how eight different types of family therapists would approach family problems.¹ For each school of family therapy (Table 13-1), the major theoretical constructs, a practical approach to the family, the major proponents of that school, and a metaphor that captures something essential about that type of family therapy will be discussed. The vignette revolves around a composite family with an anorectic member. The focus is on family dynamics rather than on anorexia per se, but anorexia has been paradigmatic to family therapy, much as hysteria was for psychoanalysis or borderline personality disorder was for dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT).

Table 13-1 The Schools of Family Therapy

Case Vignette

The Bean family was referred to family therapy at the request of the individual therapist for Pam Bean (not her real name), a high school junior who had been losing weight over the past year and had become amenorrheic for the last 6 months. During the year of her weight loss, her older sister, Ellen, had left for college. When asked about other changes in the family, Mrs. Bean, a 45-year-old schoolteacher, stated that her brother’s teenage son had committed suicide the year before. Mr. Bean, a 47-year-old software engineer, added that he had recently taken a new job that necessitated a great deal of travel. Mrs. Bean noted that Pam had been a cheerful child who could be counted on to make others laugh; however, over the last year she had become both withdrawn and moody. Mr. Bean’s relationship with Pam had been close until she reached puberty, but now he felt clueless about how to communicate with her. To make matters more complicated, Mr. Bean’s sister had committed suicide when she was a teenager, and while they were alone together during their parents’ travels. Mr. Bean had always felt responsible for his sister’s suicide. Pam’s sister, Ellen, a 19-year-old college freshman, was about 30 pounds overweight and she worried that Pam might die.

PSYCHODYNAMIC FAMILY THERAPY

The Theory

This therapy is derived from principles of object relations and Freudian theory. The goal for psychodynamic family therapy, as with individual psychodynamic therapy, is more self-awareness, which is created by bringing unconscious material into conscious thought. At the heart of this practice is the notion that current family problems are due to unresolved issues with the previous generation. Interpersonal function is distorted by attachments to past figures and by the handing down of secrets from one generation to the next. The psychodynamically oriented family therapist wants to free the family from excessive attachment to the previous generation and wants to help family members disclose secrets and express concomitant feelings (e.g., of anger or grief). Change is created through insight that is often revealed in one individual at a time, in a serial fashion, as others look on.

The Practice

In order to loosen the grip of the past on the present, the therapist uses several tools (including interpretation of transferential objects in the room, interpretation of projective identification, and the use of the genogram to make sense of generational transmission of issues). In family therapy, transferential interpretations are made among family members, rather than between the patient and the therapist, as occurs in individual therapy. For example, when Mr. Bean says “I guess I am not an expert when it comes to female problems,” the therapist may have asked, “Who made you feel that way in your family of origin?” When he reveals that he has felt this way since his sister’s suicide, he comes to understand how an old lens distorts his current vision (i.e., he still feels so guilty about his sister’s death that he does not feel entitled to weigh in with opinions about his daughter’s anorexia).

Another important tool for dredging up the past is the interpretation of projective identification, which Zinner and Shapiro ² have defined as the process “by which members split off disavowed or cherished aspects of themselves and project them onto others within the family group.” This process generates intrapsychic peace at the expense of interpersonal conflict. For example, Mrs. Bean may disown her need to control her impulses by projecting her perfectionism onto Pam. Simultaneously, Pam can disown her anger by enraging her parents with her anorexia. As these unconscious projections occur reflexively, they are more difficult for the individual to recognize and to own. Put another way, each family member behaves in such a way as to elicit the very part of the self that has been disavowed and projected onto another family member. The purpose of these mutual projections is to keep old relationships alive by the reenactment of conflicts that parents had with their families of origin. Thus, when Mrs. Bean projects her perfectionism onto Pam, she re-creates the conflict she had with her own mother, who lacked tolerance of impulses that were not tightly controlled.

In part, the psychodynamic family therapist gathers and analyzes multigenerational transmission of issues through the use of a genogram (Figure 13-1), a visual representation of a family that maps at least three generations of that family’s history. The genogram reveals patterns (of similarity and difference) across generations—and between the two sides of the family involving many domains: parent-child and sibling roles, symptomatic behavior, triadic patterns, developmental milestones, repetitive stressors, and cutoffs of family members.²

Figure 13-1 The Bean family, October 2006.

In addition, the genogram allows the clinician to look for any resonance between a current developmental issue and a similar one in a previous generation. This intersection of past with present anxiety may heighten the meaning and valence of a current problem.³ With the Bean family (including two adolescents), the developmental imperative is to work on separation; this is complicated by the catastrophic separations of previous adolescents. Their therapist might discover a multigenerational pattern of role reversals, where children nurture parents, as suggested by the repetition of failed attempts of adolescents to separate from their parents.

The Proponents

James Framo ⁴ invites parents and adult siblings to come to an adult child’s session; this tactic allows the past to be revisited in the present. This “family of origin” work is usually brief and intensive, and consists of two lengthy sessions on 2 consecutive days. The meetings may focus on unresolved issues or on disclosure of secrets; it allows the adult child to become less reactive to his or her parents.

Norman Paul ⁵ believes that most current symptoms in a family can be connected to a previous loss that has been insufficiently mourned. In family therapy, each member mourns an important loss while other members bear witness and consequently develop new stores of empathy.

Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy ⁶ introduced the idea of the “family ledger,” a multigenerational accounting system of obligations incurred and debts repaid over time. Symptoms are understood in terms of an individual’s making sacrifices in his or her own life in order to repay an injustice from a previous generation.

Murray Bowen ⁷ stressed the dual importance of the individual’s differentiation of self, while maintaining a connection to the family. In order to promote increased independence, Bowen coached patients to return to their family of origin and to resist the pull of triangulated relationships, by insisting that interactions remain dyadic.

The Metaphor

This therapist is like a lead-testing scientist who tests for levels of lead in one’s garden to assess the legacy of toxins from previous homeowners. Only when the true condition of the soil has been revealed is the current homeowner free to make decisions about whether the soil is clean enough to plant root vegetables; somewhat contaminated, so that only fruit-bearing bushes will be safe; or so toxic that only flowers can be grown without hauling in truckloads of clean, fresh soil. Examination of the past enables the current gardener, and, by analogy, parents, to make informed choices about how the current environment needs to be adjusted and what kind of growth is allowable.

EXPERIENTIAL FAMILY THERAPY

The Theory

In contrast to the psychodynamic family therapist’s focus on the past, the experiential therapist is primarily concerned with the here and now. In this model, change occurs through growth experiences that arise in the therapy session; experiences are aimed at the disruption of familiar interactions among family members. The experiential family therapist tries to make something surprising and unexpected happen, thereby amplifying affect. In general, the expression of feeling is valued over the discovery of insight. In its embrace of experience, this model is atheoretical and it can best be understood in light of its practice.

The Practice

The experiential family therapist is interested in small interactions that take place during the session. For example, the therapist might ask Pam, “Who told you about the meeting today, and what was said?” This therapist might also ask each family member, “What would you wish for right now, here today, that would make your life better?” The therapist would hope to amplify any communication that conveyed warmth and closeness and would interrupt any antagonistic communication. He or she might ask Mrs. Bean to look her husband in the eye, to hold his hand, and to ask for his help in dealing with Pam’s anorexia.

This therapist uses psychodramatic, or action-oriented, techniques to create a new experience in the therapy session. She or he might “sculpt” the family, literally posing them to demonstrate the way that the family is currently organized—for example, with mother and Pam sitting very close together, with Mr. Bean with his back to them, and with Ellen outside of the circle. This therapist would hope to heighten feelings of frustration and alienation, and then to relieve those feelings with a new sculpture that places the parents together. These sculptures would serve to increase affect, to create some focus away from the identified patient, and to demonstrate the merits of the parents who are standing together to combat their daughter’s anorexia.

The Proponents

Virginia Satir,⁸ an early luminary in family therapy (a field that was largely founded by men), believed that good communication depends on each family member feeling self-confident and valued. She focused on what was positive in a family, and used nonverbal communication to improve connections within a family. If families learned to see, to hear, and to touch more, they would have more resources available to solve problems. She is credited with the use of family sculpting as a means to demonstrate the constraining rules and roles in a family.

Carl Whitaker ⁹ posited that most experience occurs outside of awareness; he practiced “therapy of the absurd,” a method that accesses the unconscious by using humor, boredom, free association, metaphors, and even wrestling on the floor. Symbolic, nonverbal growth experiences followed, with an aim toward the disruption of rigid patterns of thought and behavior. As Whitaker puts it, “psychotherapy of the absurd can be a deliberate effort to break the old patterns of thought and behavior. At one point, we called this tactic the creation of process koans” (p. 11)⁹; it is a process that stirs up anxiety in family members.